A few days back , a relative posted a " Good Morning " message in one of the family groups I am part of .(I believe every group has a few of these members who post a Good Morning message , albeit a forwarded one without fail !! , but that's a discussion for another blog post )
The message read something like this :
"A relationship with a nice person is like a sugarcane ; You break it ; Crush it ; Squeeze it ; Even beat or grind it ; Still you will only get sweetness " Good Morning !!
While I did not respond or reply on the group to the message , it got me thinking.....
That's what people probably do to nice people , they crush , squeeze , beat and break them with scant regard for their feelings. People who are nice generally have the power of empathy to understand the situation and are sweet to them irrespective of the behaviour meted out to them.
Is it really nice to be nice ? That's the question that has been playing on my mind since then....
Here's my take :
1) Be nice. I believe that it is important to be that way in this insane world
2) But , be assertive too. Understand , empathize , provide solutions , but stand firm on certain points that are not acceptable to you
3) Make yourself heard. Make it known that the behaviour is unacceptable , not the person
4) Not voicing it the first time around creates a precedent
5) Be nice , but by no means a sugarcane
